Let's Talk Behavior...
Think about the social behaviors, appropriate, or not, that your students have been displaying the first couple of weeks of CAPES! How might you address those that are inappropriate? How can you use those appropriate skills they have to teach them new appropriate skills. I believe strongly that inappropriate behaviors are social skill deficits- how does this impact how you might teach your students appropriate social skills in order to address their inappropriate behaviors?
I believe the best way to teach is through the way that you yourself act. So being kind, loving, fun, energetic, is very key. Also, we must be honest, and show a commitment to what is good and what is right. That includes correcting behavior (whether it is within ourselves or in those we have stewardship over) that is inappropriate. Therefore, we shouldn't just ignore or simply not address situations where they are lacking in behavior. Yet we should do it in a kind way, and help them to understand why the behavior is undesirable. We need to hold them to a high standard, because if we don't, who will?
ReplyDeleteAnd in a more direct response to the post, I believe that focusing on the positive and good behavior is far more powerful than focusing on the bad. So most of our behavior instruction should be positive! But there is still a place where inappropriate behavior should be addressed.
The first couple weeks of CAPES have been really great. A hasn't displayed any inappropriate behaviors; in fact, she displays very kind and courteous behaviors towards others. I think if she does anything inappropriate, to correct the behavior, I would explain a time when she did the right thing to show that what she did at that time was good. That way she doesn't feel like she is always doing something wrong, and she can be praised for a time she did do the right thing!
ReplyDeleteMy student is really good and shows a lot of appropriate social behaviors. Most the time he responds when someone is talking to him. You can tell he’s listening and he answers you even when he isn’t facing your direction. I want to help him learn to look at, or at least face the person he’s talking to. Since he’s already good at responding we can just add upon that with facing the person your responding to so they can hear you. I think learning that will also help when we’re in the pool and he goes under water sometimes when I’m giving him directions (mostly when it’s something he doesn’t want to do) I think it will help because you’re trying to “cure the disease not the symptoms.” Meaning by focusing on learning those social skills instead of the behaviors themselves, the inappropriate behaviors will diminish on their own.
ReplyDeleteI too strongly agree that inappropriate behaviors are social skill deficits. That definition is very insightful. The student I am working with has some social skill deficits that include difficulties with listening, staying focused and following directions as well as running on a whim. The appropriate skills she does possess that can be catalysts to teach new skills, might be her ability to comprehend what I am asking her to do as well as participate in activities that she finds appealing. If I eliminate other distractions so she can comprehend the fun in the activities I would like her to engage in, she can learn to stay focused and not run off when overwhelmed. I think if I keep her engaged and eliminate distractions, I can prevent her from running away.
ReplyDeleteMy student behaves very well around others. She does struggle speaking and interacting with them, but treats them kindly whenever she does come into contact. When there are behavior issues, such as not listening, I have tried different methods, some work better than others. I have realized she truly wants to please her parents and teachers. If I give her the consequence of a bad action she responds very quickly, and not as quickly when I give her a consequence for a good action...I find that interesting. I would like to try focusing more on the good But I know she can focus, it is extra challenging for her, but when I hold her to that standard, she excels.
ReplyDeleteSome behaviors that we would see as inappropriate that my student has done include boxing people, hit one person in the head, pushing people off of platforms in the water because he does not want to share, among others. I have to constantly remind him that we share and that hitting people is not appropriate. We tried to have him apologize to the person that he hit. I don't think that he was doing it to be mean, he just wanted to box. One thing I would like to do is get him in more of a group setting and have him interact and share with the other children. I hope the more interaction he gets the more he will be willing to share and see that it is an appropriate behavior.
ReplyDeleteFor the most part, my student behaves very well, she just slightly struggles with communicating with others and understanding what others might be feeling. I think that modelling good behavior is one of the best ways to teach. Helping the student reason through what someone else might be feeling is also a great way to teach, have them insert themselves into the other person's position. I think that giving appropriate, positive recognitions of what they've been doing correctly, helps them to see what they're doing is something right and good and that they should continue doing that behavior. I think that if you relate to them what previous skills they've developed that you can help them see moving forward other skills they can develop.
ReplyDeleteFor the most part, my student behaves very well, she just slightly struggles with communicating with others and understanding what others might be feeling. I think that modelling good behavior is one of the best ways to teach. Helping the student reason through what someone else might be feeling is also a great way to teach, have them insert themselves into the other person's position. I think that giving appropriate, positive recognitions of what they've been doing correctly, helps them to see what they're doing is something right and good and that they should continue doing that behavior. I think that if you relate to them what previous skills they've developed that you can help them see moving forward other skills they can develop.
ReplyDeleteThese past weeks, my student has exhibited inappropriate behavior when I try to instruct him or plan activities for him. I think he doesn't like when I try to tell him anything to do, no matter if he likes the activity at all. My professor and I came up with the plan to create an activity planning board for him, and I'm really excited to see how it goes. I think that once he gets the choice of the activities that he can do, he'll be much more receptive of the instruction and time with me and his inappropriate behaviors will mostly disappear, hopefully. Along with getting to choose his own activities and the order that we do them in, I'm hoping to replace his bad behaviors with acceptable behaviors and give him a lot of rewards for those.
ReplyDeleteMy student for the most part displays very appropriate behavior. She is so kind and very social. There was an instance where she wanted to play with a hula hoop so she just went up and took it. Well another student was using this for his activity. We told her that she needed to ask if she could play with it before she just took it. So we had her go ask. After we gave her positive feedback and told her that she did a great job, she seemed to love that. I think one of the best ways to help a child behave is by your own example. If we are positive and upbeat the students will feel the same because of the atmosphere you have provided to them.
ReplyDeleteThe first day of CAPES worried me that my student was going to struggle immensely with social skills. He has a hard time picking up on social cues especially. He would go around taking things that were not his and knocking over blocks and cups. I was shocked with last weeks class. We were working on how to participate in a group with the parachute activity, but he was uninterested. I was sad about this until he showed interest in playing ball with another kid. This was exciting because I wanted him to work on social skills. He did a great job of taking turns throwing the ball back and forth. The part that he struggled with was when the ball went too far he wanted to still take turns, but the other child wanted to race after it as well. I want to work on helping him deal with situations where he cannot control what the other person does. We can do that by continuing to work with other kids.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I have observed during these past few weeks, my participant has been displaying appropriate behavior. I think that the best thing to do with his appropriate behavior is to praise it and let him know that his behavior is acceptable. That way he understands that behaving in a positive way is the right thing to do. Since I have not yet witnessed any negative behaviors from my participant, all I have been doing is preparing myself for the day that I have to address it. When I see inappropriate behavior from him, I want to make sure that I address it immediately and explain to him why his behavior is unacceptable. Addressing it early, I hope will prevent the inappropriate behavior from becoming consistent.
ReplyDeleteMy student really struggles socially and what to do in social situations, there are times that she goes so fast that she doesn't think about what she is actually doing. Some things I have tried is just slowing her down talking with her about what she did and how to make it right. For example she knocked over another students dominos, because she wanted to play, so I took her aside and asked her why she did that, and explained why it wasn't a very nice thing to do, then asked her to apologize to the other student. Once she realized it was not her turn to play she let them alone and played with another until it was her turn to play with the dominoes. sometimes just walking through the situation with them can help them understand when to do something and when to not do something.
ReplyDeletesorry this is so late.. I had a good post all written and when i went to submit it it deleted it all because I was still signed in in my weber gmail... lets see if I can recreate what I had written before that fiasco. My student has been displaying appropriate behavior so far. She is good at communicating to me and letting me know what she does and doesn't want to do. The only time I have expected and have seen slight inappropriate behavior is when we try to get her to interact with other students or her brother. She gets a little upset when she has to play with other kids because she likes things to be done a certain way. That is the main thing being worked on this semester for her. To help her know what the appropriate behavior is, I will tell her what is appropriate and then I'll show her. Being told in two different ways is a good way for her to remember how to act.
ReplyDeleteBehavior is quite an interesting subject with T. He always wants to test boundaries such as going to a different toy or running off to a different place of the room. The key with this is though that he always looks back to see if I am watching him acting out and if I am okay with him doing this. I always just immediately reinforce that this is not what we are doing and to try my best to get his attention focused back on the task at hand. He has another inappropriate behavior of splashing other people in the pool and yelling very loudly when it is time to get out of the pool. If he begins splashing I just ask him a couple of times to stop but if that is unsuccessful I end up having to physically move him away from those people. I have not found a great way to get him to stop doing things very well. I think it is a communication issue and an issue with the concept of him not wanting to hear "no" all of the time. I think he has been getting better though with coming back to the task at hand after getting off task.
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